How To Give A Nipple Orgasm: 15 Nipple And Breast Play Tips

Want to know the best ways to touch your partner’s breasts and nipples? Here are 15 tips for playing with breasts that can help you give them a nipple orgasm.

You might even help them have a nipple orgasm…

by Sarah Miller, Gigi Engle and Cori Ritchey, C.S.C.S.Published: May 29, 2025 12:30 PM EDT bookmarksOpen share options

1. Talk before you touch.

If you want to know what feels good for your boo, there’s actually a pretty easy way to find out: Just ask them what they like!

You won’t just get brownie points for being able to communicate openly about sexual touch; you’ll also become better at pleasing your partner because you actually know what they want, rather than trying to read their mind. To get the convo going, simply ask them what they’ve liked/not liked in the past or if they have any fantasies that involve their breasts.

Lots of people really, really enjoy breast play—in fact, 81.5 percent of women reported that breast and nipple stimulation causes or enhances sexual arousal, per a 2006—so chances are your sexual partner will be happy to answer your questions…and might even treat you to a hands-on demonstration.

And if they aren’t sure? Well, it’s time to get curious and go on a little breast exploration journey together—more on that below.

2. Compliment your partner.

Women who are unhappy with their breast size are 16 times more likely to hide their breasts during sex, according to a UCLA study. Which is a bummer, because you don’t just want to see your partner’s breasts—you also want them to feel safe, secure, and sexy.

Even if your partner doesn’t seem to have a problem with their boob size, everyone could use a confidence boost—especially from someone they’re into—so compliment your partner’s breasts early in foreplay. “Comment on her high responsiveness to stimulation,” she explains, says Patti Britton, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist (i.e., “your nipples are so hard right now.”) Alternatively, you can also say something as simple as “Oh, wow, you have amazing boobs” or “Your breasts are so sexy.” A little dirty talk can go a long way!

3. Don’t head for the nipple right away.

Nipples vary widely in terms of sensitivity, sexual and reproductive health professor Debby Herbenick, Ph.D., previously told Men’s Health, so if you’re not quite sure what your partner likes, you need to work your way up to nipple stimulation. Start off by gently stroking or massaging the tops, bottoms, and sides of their breasts. Alternate with lightly kissing their neck, earlobes, and collarbone. That’ll help build anticipation and leave your partner wanting more.

Want a quick lesson from Professor Herbenick? She shares her best breast-touching tips below:

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4. Once your partner is aroused, focus on the areola.

When you feel like your partner is ready—and if they’re making a lot of noise or writhing around with pleasure, they probably are—move onto the areola, the dark-colored circle that surrounds the nipple, which is actually more sensitive than the nipple itself. Focus especially on the upper quadrant of the breast, between 10 and 2 o’clock. It’s the most sensitive part of the bull’s-eye. Gently stroke the nipple and circle the areola with a finger, or circle the nipple with your thumb and forefinger.

5. Get your mouth involved—but be gentle.

If your partner seems to be enjoying what you’re doing with your hands, you can then use your tongue to very lightly draw circles around their nipple. If their nipple is erect, gently flick it with your tongue a few times before slowly and gently taking the nipple into your mouth. From there, alternate between licking and sucking on the nipple. (If your partner has inverted nipples, which approximately 10 to 20 percent of women do, you can lure the nipples out with touching, kissing, licking, and gentle sucking, but you might have to work a little harder.)

After a while, you can give your mouth a break and go back to gently circling and stroking their nipples—they might enjoy the varying pressure and different sensations.

6. Pay attention to the whole breast, too.

While the nipple is definitely the pleasure center of the breast, it can be very enjoyable to fondle, feel, and caress the entire breast. While your mouth is focused on the nipple, you can use your hand to gently squeeze the breast at the same time. This will engage the entire area and hold the breast in place for easier suction/licking of the nipple.

7. Don’t leave one side out.

When you’re so caught up in the moment sucking on a nice nipple, it’s easy to get carried away and forget there are two nipples. Double the fun, you know?

You want to be sure that you’re giving the nipples and breasts equal love. Too much stimulation of one breast can lead to it becoming either overly stimulated or even painful, so pay attention to your partner’s physical and audible cues. If you’re ever unsure if something is working for them or not, just ask.

8. Don’t bite—unless your partner asks you to.

Even if your partner is writhing and moaning with pleasure, you shouldn’t get carried away and bite or pull their nipple without their consent. If you sense that your partner might like it rough, ask, “Do you want more?” or “Harder?” before nibbling on or pulling on their nipple with your teeth. While some people really enjoy rough breast play, others do not, and you don’t want to interrupt your good time or theirs by crossing that line without their consent.

9. Check in before you bounce, jiggle, honk, or slap.

In that same vein… if you and your partner are both into slapping breasts, honking them, jiggling them, or other forms of rougher play, that’s completely normal. But if we’ve said it once, we’ve said it a thousand times, ask before you up the ante with any sexual activity. If you’re unsure how your partner feels about a particular type of breast touch, just say, “Is it OK if I do this?” or “Would you like it if I did that?” Trust that it won’t ruin the mood; instead, think of it as another way to enhance the experience with a little dirty talk.

10. Different types of breasts enjoy different things.

You know the phrase “different strokes for different folks”? Turns out, that was about touching boobs! Okay, not really, but it’s a good motto to keep in mind because size, shape, and life stage can all impact how your partner’s breasts respond to stimulation. For example, large breasts are about 24 percent less sensitive than small ones, according to a study conducted at the University of Vienna. “This is probably because the nerve that transmits sensation from the nipple is stretched,” says Alan Matarasso, M.D., a plastic surgeon in New York City. So if your partner has larger breasts, you may want to spend more time stimulating the outer sides of their breasts, just below the armpits, with your tongue or fingertips before moving on to the areolas and nipples.

Biological changes that come with certain life stages can also impact breast sensitivity. If your partner is pregnant, nursing, or on their period, their nipples will be tender. (And this is assuming that your partner wants you to play with their breasts at all during this time—many people with boobs do not, particularly if they’re breastfeeding.) Focus on your partner’s underboob, which is a frequently neglected area, and gently cup and support their breasts.

11. Bring nipple clamps or suckers into the mix.

If you and your partner are into accessories, take your breast and nipple play to the next level by using nipple clamps or suction devices. These toys provide a different, more intense sensation than simply caressing or pinching your partner’s nipples with your own hands. Nipple clamps also allow for consistent nipple stimulation. Your partner can wear them the entire time you’re having sex, freeing up your hands to touch other parts of their body.

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12. A vibrator can be fun, too.

FYI: Your sex toys don’t have to be nipple-specific to feel good during breast play. Vibrators can also offer some delightful stimulation to the nipples. While they are primarily designed for the clitoris, the buzzy sensation can feel amazing on many other erogenous zones, including the breasts.

We recommend using a girthier wand for this kind of play. Because they have a big head, they offer a more widespread sensation. (Check out some of our favorite wand vibrators here.)

You can even get creative and hold a vibrator against one nipple while you lick and/or suck on the other. It’s all about trying new things and seeing what works.

13. Get the clitoris involved.

Somewhere in the 85 to 95 percent range of all people who have a clitoris need external clit stimulation in order to orgasm. So, if you’re trying to deliver on a nipple orgasm, combine nipple play with stimulation of the external clitoris for a sweet blended orgasm.

Stimulate your partner’s nipples gently with your fingertips or tongue. You can increase sensation as you move along and they become more aroused. Then, add in stimulation of the clitoris, either with hands, mouth, or a sex toy. It’s really that simple. Don’t forget to communicate to make sure they’re loving it!

14. Play with temperature.

Feeling something cold or hot on certain areas of the body can send a shock through the system, especially when those body parts are extra sensitive, like the nipples. It’s something unexpected, and experiencing that level of surprise increases blood flow and heart rate.

When it comes to temperature play on the breasts, run a cold (or hot) object around your partner’s nipples, and then over each one. You don’t need a ton of equipment. Simply grab an ice cube from the freezer and have at it. You can even try holding the ice cube in your mouth and using it to draw circles around the areola. Now, combine all this with some clitoral stimulation and you might be in a R-I-D-E.

To deliver a surprising warm sensation, you could take a sip of hot tea before gently sucking on your partner’s nips. Or you can light a massage oil candle, pour some of the warm oil in your hands (make sure to blow out the flame first!), and then touch your partner’s breasts.

Temp play is a beginner-friendly type of kink, and if you want to make this extra kinky, you can gently restrain your partner. If you don’t have handcuffs or other restraints, simply use a T-shirt or neck tie to bind their wrists above their head. But make sure to have an agreed-upon safe word at the ready and a pair of safety scissors nearby, just in case.

15. Be enthusiastic!

Now, this is possibly the most important tip of all: Be enthusiastic.

Female-bodied people have been raised to believe that their pleasure is secondary to their partners. They are told that they should be serving others, and that enjoying pleasure is selfish. Because of these damaging (and false) messages, they need as much assurance that you’re enjoying yourself as possible. This is true of everyone, sure, but it makes a huge difference.

Make some noise. Moan while you’re sucking. Take a breath between play to let them know how hot they are and how much you love giving their breasts your undivided attention.

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LettermarkSarah Miller Sarah Miller is a writer based in Northern California. She writes a newsletter, which you can subscribe to here.

Headshot of Gigi EngleGigi EngleWriterGigi Engle is a COSRT-registered, GSRD-accredited sex and relationships psychotherapist, sex coach, sex educator, and writer.Cori Ritchey, C.S.C.S.Associate Health and Fitness EditorCori Ritchey, C.S.C.S., is an Associate Health & Fitness Editor at Men’s Health, a certified strength and condition coach, and group fitness instructor. She reports on topics regarding health, nutrition, mental health, fitness, sex, and relationships. You can find more of her work in HealthCentral, Livestrong, Self, and others.

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